How Can I Agree and Disagree with the pope at the same time?

Vector image of two human figures with hands i...

Image via Wikipedia

I rarely find myself agreeing with what the pope says(except that he believes in evolution). Him and I don’t see eye to eye on things like ‘god’, silencing child abuse, gay marriage, equal rights, what triggered the Big Bang, etc… But yesterdays article in the Globe and Mail got me agreeing and disagreeing with him all at the same time. Confused? Me too..

The pope has told his priests that before a couple get married they should do some pre-marriage counselling to see if they are ready. I can only imagine what kind of counselling the catholic church does, but the idea is a good one! I think that the pope is worried about the 50% divorce rates… I don’t think he is particularly worried about abusive relationships, women not being treated equally, or same sex marriage

But none the less,  I agree with some generalized counseling about how a healthy relationship should function. Someone OTHER than our parents, because honestly, do we really listen to them for relationship advice? Um, no. How to set up healthy boundaries, how to maintain a monogamous relationship, how to raise kids(where is THAT book when the baby is born!!), and how to keep being an individual while respecting your partner. Relationships are a work in progress. Why aren’t we given some tools at the start to help build a solid base?

However, in the next breath he says that people don’t have an absolute right to marriage. Hold on there! I completely disagree here…While I think it is a good idea for couples to get some guidance about healthy relationships, I don’t think anyone should be denied getting married if both people consent. The church has a horrible history of defining who can get married. My parents weren’t allowed to get married in the church while my mom was pregnant. They had a civil wedding instead. So, pope, keep your religion out of defining who can get married. Gays, lesbians, young, old. Anyone. Everyone has a right to make this decision.Now if he said, no one has an absolute right to get married in a catholic church. Sure. They freak me out, so I’m good with that. But don’t speak about society in general…

What are your beliefs around marriage? Do you agree or disagree with the pope?

No one has absolute right to a wedding, Pope tells Vatican tribunal – The Globe and Mail.

Advertisements