Making positive changes in 20 steps

I came across this great post over at The Daily Zen on how to make small amendments to your daily habits to effect positive changes in your life.

I’ve been working on changing some of my emotional and mental triggers that make me think negative thoughts or simply become irritable. With a gazillion children, a busy life, and no time for fun with my wife or friends, it’s easy to go into a negative spiral and blame everyone around you.

One thing that I’ve been playing with is a daily question that I have automatically texted to myself. It asks me at around 9pm every night, “Am I in a better mood than yesterday?” If I notice a few days in a row where the answer is No, I need to change something. If I have a few days where the answer is Yes, I think about what I’ve been doing differently to make for a better mood. In many instances, it is one of the 20 things listed below…

Change doesn’t need to be big all at once. It can be little things. The following post is a nice way to ease into better habits… Continue reading “Making positive changes in 20 steps”


What gives you irrational anxiety? I’ll go first!

Tonight my wife(love you honey…) and I were having a discussion over furniture. You see, we are going to be moving next spring and are pretty certain that we know the house we are going to be living in. Sweet! Right?

We have been very fortunate to be in a massive house for the last couple of years but this has been a bad way to amass a shitload of stuff. The house we may be moving into is quite a bit smaller…To top it off, we are expecting a baby in the same week as we move in! That will make for 4 kids between us and we will need to plan for more baby stuff. And more specifically, organize all the baby stuff.

We have been slowly downsizing this year. We have gotten rid of 3 couches, and the two older boys are being transitioned into twin beds from their queen sized ones that they have been fortunate to sprawl in. I’ve done a few loads to the Recycling Exchange and have enjoyed emptying the van each and every time. My anxiety lessens as well with every load of crap I take to the dump.

My wife thinks we need to be better prepared for our next baby. One thing we need is more dressers, she says. Because over the last couple of days, we have had two new ones enter the garage…This evening we brought home the twin bed for our oldest. But something made my stomach flop when I pulled it out of the minivan.

Where to put it?

I panic! It goes something like this in my head…”Where are we going to put all this stuff?” “We have TOO MUCH STUFF!” “Why do we need ANOTHER dresser?” “Why can’t we wait until AFTER we move to get that?” “We need a China cabinet?” “Why do we need table linens anyways?” “I’m going to have to move ALL this stuff by myself while you’re ULTRA-PREGNANT” I made the mistake to say the last one out loud…

I remember moving into this house. We did a poor job preparing for the move as we had only a month to get ready and we were expecting our most recent son, and my wife was quite sick at the time. Stuff was just thrown in boxes, and we filled a 5 ton truck to the gills quite easily. It was a tough move…Then, baby came and it took us months to unpack.

This move will probably be much the same. At least the baby on the way part.

I have to remind myself that we have given away a lot of things, and the big ticket items are leaving the building, so to speak. Probably the only thing that makes me feel a sense of relief is that if all goes well, we will know 5 months in advance about the move and can prepare far better!

Some people have irrational fears and anxieties about spiders, crowds, carnies…Me? It’s too much furniture and the slow build up of ‘stuff’.



» How I Changed My Life, In Four Lines :zenhabits

Me Running
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Today I was reading through my Google Reader feeds and came across an article that I just have to share with you.

Earlier in the year, I wrote about how I had decided to try out exercising every day as a parallel challenge to my PostaDay2011 Challenge that I am a part of. I kept it up for a while, but eventually gave up. It’s has bugged me that I stopped my daily exercise.

With a baby coming up in the New Year, I have to come up with a better plan to maintain my health, whether it be my physical or mental health. Exercise is key to me feeling my best. So I decided to put on my runners tonight and go out for a short run. It was only 4km, but that’s the point. I don’t need to have a long distance goal, just the goal to put on my runners and get out the door.

If you are at all looking to make some changes is your life, I recommend reading the Zen Habits article and see if it can help you.

Changing your life can seem an incredibly tough and complicated thing, especially if you’ve failed a great number of times like I did, found it too hard, and resigned yourself to not changing.But I found a way to change.And I’m not any better than anyone else, not more disciplined, not more motivated. I just learned a few simple principles that changed my life.I’ve written about them many times, but realized they’re spread out all over the site.Here is how I changed my life, in a nutshell.

via » How I Changed My Life, In Four Lines :zenhabits.

Are you a Perfectionist? Learn to let go…

High standards
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I read an interesting article today about how perfectionism and procrastination can go hand in hand. I recognize some of the traits in the article in myself.

Growing up, my parents rewarded me for ‘being smart’. Many parents do the same thing. We praise our kids for doing well in school. Seems like a good thing to do, right? Many educators are now thinking that this is a mistake. Continue reading “Are you a Perfectionist? Learn to let go…”