Weddings and Speeches

Wedding speech
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If there is one thing that I don’t enjoy doing in front of a bunch of people is speeches. I am not one of those types of people that loves to be the centre of attention.

I have blogged in the past about my anxiety of speaking in front of others, and how I overcame it(or so I think…). Many years ago, I stood in front of a group of 10 or so students in one of my criminology classes and tried to do a presentation about capital punishment. I had a panic attack within a couple of sentences, and had to restart. By the time I was done, I was sweating, shaking and completely humiliated.

This was a red flag for me that I needed to address my in-ability to speak in front of others.

I decided to sign up at the local radio station as a DJ. It worked.

One of the things that I realize is that I do a lot better speaking in groups where there is interaction. People asking me questions, or me asking questions, and people answering. A whole lot different that doing a one way spoken word ramble.

I don’t have a wedding speech prepared, and I am still a bit uncertain whether I should write one, or wing it? Or, do I like many famous actors at the Oscars, just pull out a small piece of paper with notes?

Have any of you had to do a wedding speech before? How did you do? Was it your first? Did you throw up? lol.


Living your Life as if the Doctor just gave you 60 days to live.

The North America Nebula
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Today I attended a memorial and celebration of life for my father-in-law Malcolm. It was a beautiful event with many well spoken people that went up to say a few words. In his obituary in the paper was written that he lived his life by the motto, “If the doctor gives you 6 months to live, he doesn’t mean wait”.

I can tell you from couple of years that I’ve known him, he didn’t wait. In fact he was given 3 to 6 months to live and only lasted 2 1/2 months, but he did all his living before getting the diagnosis of cancer. He enjoyed kayaking, camping, skiing, hiking, volunteering, mentoring, and helping others. Malcolm also had the ability to focus on the things important to him and others around him, and not care about stuff that doesn’t matter. Continue reading “Living your Life as if the Doctor just gave you 60 days to live.”