I Fail at Social Networking, and so do you…

The internet is a wonderful thing! A wealth of knowledge at our fingertips, and immediate access to our friends and family.  We live in an age where I know so much about my friends lives, that it is easy to spark up conversation if I actually ever meet up with them! This happens to me all the time, I bump into a friend in the grocery store, and ask them how the new car is, or how their trip to Thailand went, or that I liked the new pictures they posted of their perfect kids…

Facebook knows every little detail about you. Google might know things too, but your search history or email contents aren’t posted for all your friends and family to see. Wouldn’t that be embarrassing! lol

We offer up our lives inside our Facebook accounts.But it is not just Facebook. Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, Reddit, Google+, Myspace(joking). But, have you ever noticed that our friends lives are soooo much more interesting and fun than our own. Facebook is kind of depressing for me most of the time. Everyone is posting how great their life is, how they just #boughtthebestthingever…, went on the #tripofalifetime. Again. Look at me!! My life rocks…

This video puts it all into perspective for you my friends…

Feel better? I know I did…

But the web we are all entangled in doesn’t stop with Facebook. The companies that run our favourite sites are fighting a battle for your attention, and in the end, your money. They are in the business of making money, and their sights are set on you…They excel at reminding you that you haven’t tweeted in a while, or that your buddies have been talking about all your favourite hobbies behind your back! You better click the link and get back in the game…

I’ve realized that I have a mutually balanced love and hate for my online life. I love ‘sort of’ keeping up to date with (or at least learning about) what my friends and family are up to. Why? Because I care about people in my life. But most of the time, I am simply too busy to include them in my hectic life. And, honestly with 4 young kids, I get that some of my friends might be ‘just too busy too’…

But, as time passes, I feel bad about being a hermit. What kind of friend am I really if I see people once a year or even less? I like hanging out with friends. I also enjoy shutting down my Facebook account all the time! Then realize that I am as hooked as everyone else with my online persona. However, I forget to use Twitter, realize that I haven’t blogged on here in a very long time, how much I love Reddit but forget about it, that my RSS reader is filling up with tons of cool stuff, that Google+ is neat but no one I know is really active there. I never “succeed” at any social website…

Look at me having fun...
Look at me having fun…

Then I ask myself, why didn’t I post about taking some time off of work, because I couldn’t cope with a tornado of crap that hit me all at once? #nervousbreakdown. That is life, isn’t it? But instead, I took pictures of me mountain biking, and joking that it was my therapist…It kinda was. And kinda is…

That is the key distinction for me. We go on these sites to feel better about our kind of normal, boring lives… I don’t think I’d go on Facebook if all I saw was how hard it was for my friends to pay their bills, that their marriage was on the rocks, that their kids were making them go insane, that they had just lost their jobs. We get that intimate with people in our lives, but not there… So, our online personas aren’t real. They aren’t. To get to know people, we need to accept that we are probably seeing them with rose-coloured glasses, and need to dig deeper. In person.

So, I accept that I fail at social networking , and I can only hope you do too…

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How do you set up your Google+ Circles? Here’s mine so far.

***Edit** – I’ve now added 2 more Circles to the mix…

  1. Private Msgs – This circle came from a post on how to keep track of private message and their histories. When I message someone on G+(share a post with only the person you wish to talk with), I also share it with this Circle. There is no one in this empty circle, but sorting by selecting it now shows all the private messages I’ve had. Kind of like an e-mail inbox. Nice tip!
  2. Celebreties – I did split my Stalking circle as people I find interesting online, and celebrities. Why? Celebrities don’t usually add much content that I will use in my life. How much can Paris Hilton or Snoop Dogg offer me for advice?

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Google+ is still in it’s infancy. Any time a new online service is launched to the public, there is a learning curve for new users. The best way to overcome confusion is to share ‘best practices‘ with everyone. I’m not saying my way is the best way, however when it comes to Google+ Circles, I have set up a small amount of Circles that make sense and work for me.

If anyone is confused with Google+ Circles, here is what I do to keep people straight, keep my stream from becoming unmanageable, and not share unwanted snippets of my boring life with everyone out there…

My circles right now Continue reading “How do you set up your Google+ Circles? Here’s mine so far.”

larrinski back on Twitter

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I have been off Twitter for a while. Why? Well, a couple of reasons. One, I was going through a very stressful divorce, a change of job, baby, and pretty much anything else you can think of! What a year. Now, I’m engaged and excited as to what 2011 holds for me…Two, I have been slowly trying to regain a sense of balance where technology and family/friend life is involved. You can get pretty overwhelmed by the amount of information thrown at you on the interweb. And I used to use it as way to tune out all my real world problems and not deal with them…In getting back on Twitter, I have decided I am not going to follow every Tom, Dick, and Harry. Be more selective, and follow people and sites that I truly enjoy! And, use it to promote my site, of course. 😉

I can scream through pretty much all the same content in no time at all, and if something interests me, it only takes a few moments to get to the article. I feel up to date again.

So, as I said above, I have reclaimed my account. Follow me @larrinski.

WordPress.com has also added Twitter integration. Here is the blog post about it…

I am also keeping my eye on the newest releases by nirvanahq(GTD beta app), and Nozbe, etc…

Here is my most recent comment on Nozbe, and why I think they have lost touch with GTD. An inbox for a vacation? Not very GTD in my opinion…

http://twitter.com/#!/larrinski/status/4206037309595648

As always, I encourage you to leave comments on the blog, and let me know what you think…